Not bloody likely. Now I have one person in particular telling me I need to be on Twitter. I’m online too much. Usually it is reading dubious content, but at work I spend a lot of time Googling and keeping up on the latest news.
I’ve blogged a lot. I’ve been online a long time. I’ve blogged about finding a job online. And so when I came across a pair of postings/links on blogs I am subscribed to, I figured I’d lump them together and comment. What I have to say should be taken with a grain of salt or a boulder. I had far from an ideal experience as a Grad student.
First off by way of the Church of the Customer blog comes this post on Word of Mouth Marketing for Graduate Students. Having done a graduate degree albeit an MBA, I can say that I did a lot of what is advised and my experience doing my MBA was the worst of my life, I’m severely traumatized by words and actions of my classmates and the administration. People still probably insist “I must be lying” or they’re do busy taking advantage of other people to remember I still exist.
Here are Diane Cline’s top ten tips, plus my snide comments:
- Be nice. I used to think I was a nice guy. Even Marlene Lau said she noticed how I went out of my way to treat people kind, even people who could do me no good. That didn’t stop her from lying to me, maligning me, having me threatened, and generally taking pleasure and amusement out of ruining my life. I have to advise in business school, especially the Sauder School of Business, that the people who get ahead, who get rewarded with the scholarships and the fancy jobs are those that connive and conspire.
- Don’t gossip. Gossiping was the number one past time of my Sauder MBA Classmates. They would rather gossip than study. MSN was used almost exclusively to spread rumors and innuendo about other classmates. I tried to avoid all this. I kept secrets. Even after March 17th 2005, you can ask Gary, I defended and never badmouthed Marlene Lau, at least not until the second or third time I was threatened with arrest for questioning the words and actions of my classmate in an email.
- Think about your personal “brand”. I’ve blogged about this. I tried to get the importance of this across to my MBA Classmates, but they preferred to gossip, cheat, and use people, too many two faced hypocrites. I haven’t forgotten some of the things they said. They had no problems damaging my reputation, especially when I kept silent and continued to go out of my way to help everyone in my class.
- Maintain and build relationships with others. I tried this. I was LinkedIn to a lot of people, I tried to be careful, but I never expected to be so thoroughly broken, betrayed, and belittled by people who continued to insist they were my friend, right up until they decided I was a violent psychopath.
- Work on your self image. Another thing that was completely destroyed by Marlene Lau and Anne DeWolfe on March 17th 2005. Of course Anne couldn’t be bothered to investigate or perform a “reasonable person test” before or after threatening me and punishing me. Even after I begged people to believe me, they still insisted I was lying, or nothing could be done, or that this wouldn’t have any negative affect on me, my ability to enjoy or participate in the Sauder MBA program, my health, or my grades, or of course my career… I’ve lived in fear and misery for almost four years now.
- Be remarkable. I was certainly that. People will never forget some of the things I said and did, doubly so if they use Google. I’ll never forget Marlene Lau. I’m still haunted by her’s and other classmates’ faces in my nightmares. I still suffer panic attacks when I see them or even people who look like them…
- Help others. I went out of my way to do this, doubly so after March 17th 2005, when I was informed it was in fact a crime in the eyes of Marlene Lau and Anne DeWolfe, to care, to tell the truth, and most of all to go out of your way to help a classmate with their studies and internship search, even if that classmate was your “friend” and had thanked you for helping them a few days before… People change their mind, they also change their stripes… They definitely don’t believe in reciprocity. I know because when I begged my MBA Classmates to believe me, to stop hurting me, to help, they finally just turned their backs, pretended I didn’t exist and left me to die.
- Leave places better than you found them. I know after I left the Sauder School of Business people were still going to guest speakers I arranged while I was on exchange in China. And future classes of MBA students used my study notes and guides, some even thanked me for it. Only Sverre, Gary, and possibly Jason thanked me for all that BAIM work and only two of my classmates ever apologized to me. That doesn’t mean they still answer my emails though…
- Be appreciative. I tried, but after I was treated worse than I could even imagine, I just felt things people shouldn’t have to feel, shouldn’t have to describe, shouldn’t have to beg people to believe.
- Being remarkable in your field and being a remarkable person are two different things. I thought there were some remarkable people in my MBA class, but I learned people weren’t who I thought they were, they weren’t even people worth knowing, certainly not worth suffering everyday for the rest of your life all because they refused to believe you and didn’t like hearing the sad pathetic truth.
I don’t know if I should thank Miss Cline for giving me an opportunity to link to so many of my 600 plus blog postings, or if she’d be happy to learn that her article brought back so many painful memories, as did other recent events…
I wonder how many trackbacks the new version of WordPress will leave, Trackbacks and Pingbacks seem to be on the outs, Blogger doesn’t even seem to support them anymore.
I was also going to link to a Guy Kawasaki posting, but I’m not sure he wants to be in the same Internet neighborhood as me. No one wants to associate with a pariah, even one who tells the truth.
He’s advocating using LinkedIn to find a job. I tried that, but LinkedIn just gave my classmates another way to use me and to show how duplicitous and callous they really were.
Update February 2012
Experts continue to advise people to blog, especially people looking for work or trying to advance their career or build their personal brand. I can’t say that blogging or doing grad school helped me. Quite the opposite, my time as a Sauder School of Business MBA student was the worst of my life and damage done I’ve never recovered from. People still insist I must be lying or that I wasn’t negatively affected, mostly they pretend I don’t exist, but unfortunately for everyone I continued to blog, documenting my problems, pain, suffering, illness, and I stopped leaving certain people any degree of anonymity.
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